Love is Love: Personalism and Sexual Fulfillment

Regarding human sexuality, most people fall into two main categories: puritanism or permisivism. Either people reject all pleasure and joy in sexuality, or they seek only pleasure. The personalistic vision basically understands that our sexuality is not only biological, but rather personal. And sexual fulfillment only exists when our sexual behavior leads us to the integral fulfillment of the human person. We must find a way to enjoy our sexuality fully, but always at the service of the dignity of the human person and at the service of true intimacy.

The same works for our digestive health as well. Enjoying the pleasure of eating is a great and natural part of human life, but we have to make sure the food isn't just tasty, but that it is also healthy. If our only criteria for eating were the taste, then we would probably all have an eating disorder, or possibly even be starving. So with sexuality, if our sexual behavior does not lead to true intimacy and fulfillment, then it's probably not a healthy sexual behavior. 

Real sexual fulfillment and satisfaction comes from learning to love fully, from the mutual, permanent, exclusive commitment to the integral good of the human person. The sexual act is meant to be a spousal act, and act of total self-giving, union and openness to its creative potential.